How to Defeat the Beast called Stress.

How many of us deal with stress? How much stress do you feel you can manage before you break? Do you stress over little things like… what you will wear for the day or the amount of time you  have to get things done? How is your stress level when it comes to managing money, multitasking or dealing with ever changing circumstances? Well if you are anything like me, stress can become an issue quickly. ESPECIALLY, when you feel the pressure to make sure everything or everyone is okay. My biggest problem that often resulted in stress was dealing with change. I had to learn that change is inevitable, but stress could be deadly. When you allow yourself to stress, you block out your shining light. You begin to fill your mind and spirit with doubt. You close the door on triumph and open a window for defeat. Your mind  then becomes clouded with those pesky “what if” thoughts. What if I can not pay the light bill on time, What if I am not good enough during my job interview. What if the doctor calls back with a negative report? I will not lie to you and say that you will never stress again. Because that my friend would be a false statement.  However, I can give you 5 easy steps to help decrease your stress level. They are very helpful for me and I hope they will be helpful to you as well.


  • Before you start to hyperventilate, breathe. Close your eyes and breathe in deep and slow. As you begin to exhale, release any negative thoughts or concerns in that very moment. Allow your body to get in a relaxed state. This also gets your mind in a relaxed state allowing you to think clearly.


Step 2: Reverse the what if mentality.

  • You have to change that “what if”  into “Instead”.  Don’t think of  all the bad things that could happen. Tell yourself “Instead of worrying I will be hopeful and I will check all of my resources before coming to a negative conclusion.”


Step 3: Meditate/Pray.

  • Use this moment to speak positively over you situation. Once you have released all negative thoughts/concerns get into a place of “Thanksgiving”. This is where you realize that your situation could ALWAYS be worse. This is a time to show humility and become one with yourself and God. His strength and love is more powerful then anything on this earth. Tap into that.


Step 4: Review past stressful situations and the outcome.

  • Look back on some of the things you have stressed over in the past… how did you overcome it? Was the situation as bad as you thought it was? Weigh that situation with what you are facing now. Reassure yourself that you have overcome hurdles before and can do it again.


Step 5: Use your strength.

  • You did not overcome those past obstacles for nothing! You did not earn those stripes for nothing! You were rewarded with strength on purpose. That strength is to get you through various challenges to come. DO NOT sleep on your strength. Do not forget the battles you have endured to gain that strength. Use it now! Pick up your sword of strength and overcome yet again!!


These may seem like small steps, but once you really open your mind and put them to use the changes you will see in yourself will be incredible. Clearing your mind of any unwanted stress helps you exhibit positive thinking. Positive thinking helps manifest positive behavior which in turn causes others to mirror that behavior. Not only that, but you will be surprised at the patience and amount of understanding you will receive. This is coming from a person who use to stress out over everything! I am thankful for this exercise and hope it will be of help to you all as well.  Peace, Love and blessings.









The Key Of Confidence

Confidence is an essential value for each one of us to obtain. Having confidence in yourself simply means that you believe you will accomplish anything that you set your mind to do. When you are confident in yourself you have surpassed the idea of believing that others have to believe in you in order for you to succeed. Confidence is key. With confidence you will push yourself to reach higher ground. You will motivate yourself to keep going even when the waves of the sea begin to crash harder than they ever have before. I have not always been confident in myself. I will be the first to admit that. I have not always enjoyed what I saw while looking in the mirror… in fact I use to avoid looking in the mirror too long because I knew I would find flaws. I knew I would find something, anything to break what little confidence I did have.

However, today I have confidence.  I am confident that I will make it. I am confident that I will survive. I will survive because I have the will to survive.  I have the right to hold the “key” of confidence. With this special key I have been able to unlock a door. This door held all of my fears, concerns and doubt.  Now is the time for me to face all of those monsters head on and transcend to a greater, uplifting place. NOW is the time for me to tap in to what I have learned by accepting this key of confidence and become better. I know what not to be afraid of. I know not to underestimate my physical and/or spiritual strength when times get tough. I know not to worry about things outside of my control. I will survive.

When you can look back over your life, pinpoint particular moments and say “WOW! That was the day I thought my life was over.” Only to realize you pushed past that and it was not as bad as you thought. How many of those moments can you think of? Somewhere you found the drive…the confidence you needed to move past that moment. You kept going and did not fold. You may have been close to giving up, but you did not give up. So DO NOT do it now! DO NOT make an excuse for why you will not make that change that needs to be made. DO NOT make an excuse for why you can not let go of the past. Find that same confidence that you once were familiar with.

With all that being said, DO NOT make room in your life for negative thoughts to creep in and take root. This is where we slowly begin to tread in dangerous waters. Instead of being confident in our ability to defeat things that were sent to destroy us, we lose confidence. We give up before the battle begins. God has given you and me the tools we need to survive. Be confident before the battle. Be confident during the battle. Most importantly be confident after the battle because it will not be your last one. You have your own cape, so go be your own hero. With confidence,  faith and wisdom may we ALL continue to walk through this life with our head held high. Because you and me… we will survive.

What About Me?

pexels-photo-356079.jpeg   We have all asked ourselves this question sometime or another. I must say I use to ask “What about me?” quite often… like multiple times a day. It is very hard to see someone else receive that promotion that you felt like you deserved. Maybe your plan was to finish college in a certain amount of time, but life got in the way. Your dreams of being a teacher, doctor or even a lawyer got put on hold. However, your good friend was able to graduate on time and with honors. It is very easy to get discouraged when you feel like “It” just is not happening fast enough. When I say “It”, I mean a breakthrough… or even just an upgrade from where we are in life right now. It can get frustrating. Especially when you feel like you have everything planned out and then once again life gets in the way. Nevertheless, do not allow unexpected bills, health problems or other peoples opinions get in your way of what goals you aspire to achieve. So you did not receive that promotion? How do you know that another job, a better job, isn’t considering you for employment right now? So your classmates graduated on time and you did not. God may be getting everything in order for your tuition to be cheaper in the future then it would be at this very moment. Sometimes what we think are setbacks are really set-ups. We are being set-up for BETTER! Not to say that those individuals who received their blessing did not deserve it, because they may have. It may have been their time to achieve those accomplishments. Do not be upset or down. Do not ask, “What about me?” Instead, Congratulate and encourage them. We do not know the extent of their own personals trials each had to face. Just like you may be going through a storm right now, you are not alone. Be patient and know that God has not forgot about you. If you are reading this I am sure you have been blessed thus far. Believe me when I say faith is not easy, but it is worth it. However, you have got to put action behind that faith. Trust that God has your best interest at heart. Continue to work toward that goal you are dreaming about and the rest will fall into place. Scripture says, ” ‘Faith without works is dead’ (English Standard Version, James 2:26).” Whether you see it right now or not, you are important. Your journey looks anything but dull and bleak. I pray you all find what you are seeking and may God continue to bless each and every one of you. Your promotion is on the way!

How Do You Know?

We come across different people everyday. I say different because not one person is exactly like you. They may be tall or they may be short. Some may have dark hair while others may have no hair at all. Some of these people may be super friendly while others tend to seem closed off. Whatever the different characteristics or personality traits they may have, they are still human. How do you know how important a person is? How do you know that person won’t one day cure cancer? How do you know if that one man, the one who wears the same clothes every day,  is not a millionaire? A millionaire who chooses to see how others react to his appearance , allowing that to determine whether he blesses them with 50,000  dollars or not. How do we, as a society, determine how to go about treating others? It is very simple. You show respect and offer them kindness. That does not seem to hard does it? Well in this day and age it is. Not because it was made to be hard, but we…WE make it hard. pexels-photo-638487.jpeg

Everybody is in a hurry to get to where they are going. Not once stopping to hold the door open for the lady behind them. It is just way to difficult to let the man with one item get in front of you in line. When you have a shopping cart full of two months worth of groceries. What about that young lady who was your waitress?  She waited on you hand and foot with a smile. Even when you and I both know you were being very difficult. Maybe you had a bad day, but how do you know that she did not have one too?  The point is to take a moment and slow down. Do not get in such a hurry  that you bypass manners. It’s okay to do something nice for someone. It’s even better when it is genuine. How do you know that same person won’t turn around and bless you. Not only bless you, but bless you 2 x’s over. Do not judge a person by one bad day for either of you. Do not judge a person for their appearance. Do not overlook a person because of your urgency to “get where you are going”.

 How do you know the child, the one who talked a lot and would never let you leave, didn’t save you life? Stopping to talk to that young child for a few minutes may have prevented you from being involved in that car wreck down the road. If only a few minutes. I’m not saying that being nice and making a few courteous pit stops will save your life. I’m saying that slowing down and showing kindness could save a day. Save a day from being so terrible. Your kind gesture could save lives daily and you not even know it. You just never know the possible benefits of slowing down and being able to act as a friend, sister or brother for someone. How do you know that you aren’t entertaining  an angel? Scripture says, Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for some who have done this have entertained angels without realizing it.” (Hebrews 13:2)  Be patient.  Be kind. Be courteous. Be respectful. Most importantly remember … we are all  important. We are all capable of making a difference.


You Just Have to Give Up

pexels-photo-556663.jpegI know just by the title I sound pretty crazy huh?  “You Just Have to Give Up“.  I stand by that 100% and I am going to explain why. Life can throw you some pretty awful curveballs at times. I mean the type of curveballs we never see coming.  You know the ones your bank account did not plan for. How about when you seem to be overworked and underpaid? What about feeling totally lost in life. Whether you are 18 or 48 we all tend to raise that famous question “What is my purpose in life?” If you have not reached that stage yet trust me you will.  Before you can fully accept your calling you have to give up! Give up the “What ifs”.  Give up you insecurities. Give up you worries. Give up your doubt. Give up your regrets. Give up all your burdens. You may or may not be religious. You may or may not be spiritual. However I personally do believe in a higher power. I believe in GOD. This blog is not to force spirituality or religion on anyone. Only to help you understand why I had to give up. I got tired of trying to figure things out on my own. I had literally hit rock bottom. I did not want to go anywhere or see anyone. It felt like I was loosing one thing after another. Better yet bills were coming from places I had no idea existed. Just when load seemed to be too great. I gave up. I went off to myself and had a long talk with God. It was not as If I did not talk to him daily. No, it was just this time I was angry. I was angry that I was expected to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders at 4’11 and 18 years old at the time. Everyone seemed to need something. I was pushed and pulled in a million different directions and all I wanted to do was run. So I did. I ran straight to God and he told me to just Give Up!


Let me explain. 1 Peter 5:7 says “Cast all your anxiety on him because HE cares for you.” What this means is to give everything that bothers you over to God.  He loves us enough to take on our burdens time and time again. Yet, we got it. We can do it on our own. Until it gets too hard. You have to close the door on pride.Do not ever feel ashamed to seek guidance or help.  I have found myself in that prideful place more than once and it was awful. However I am so blessed to know the “real” meaning of giving up. You have to know what specific things to give up. Do not give up on your goals and dreams. Do not give up on that promise you made to yourself concerning your happiness. Do not let those thing go. Look forward to a bright and fruitful future because that is what God wants you to have. You just make sure to cut the string on the things that are holding you back. GIVE UP those negative things that cause you pain. Then make sure to never ever invite them back into your life. I wish you all the best in life. May you all see the sunny side of what you once thought was a dark, gloomy situation. You deserve more.  You are worth more.